In the end Succos turned out okay. We were invited out for some meals and someone gave us a couple of hundred dollars to get us through.
I recall that life was a big adjustment at first. For example I wanted my girls to have as decent a yomtov as possible so one of them invited some friends to come with us on a trip to the amusement park. Every year my husbands Yeshivah gives free tickets to some attraction on Chol Hamoed. After much deliberation my husband gave my kids the tickets (which were meant for them in the first place). We planned the trip but at the last minute we suddenly remembered that HE had the mini van, while I was left with the small car, and it would be completely impossible to fit everyone in the car.
My sister in law (Rebbetzen of Rosh Yeshivah) was the one assigned to take my husband and boys to the airport, and she drove our van. She took it back to her own house (for safekeeping??) so I called her and asked when it would be convenient for me to pick up my van, bc I needed it to take my girls on a chol Hamoed trip.
I was stunned when she told me that she could not allow me to use my van, because my husband had entrusted her with it and had left specific instructions not to give me the keys.I tried to reason with her saying that the van belonged to me too, and i just needed it for 2 days and then she could have it back. I even offered to loan her my small car in exchange for the van (just in case she needed an extra car for herself). I even suggested that she give me the van for two days without my husbands knowledge and I would return it to her before he came back from Israel. This way he wouldnt know, and she would not be blamed. She got really angry and told me that I was putting her in a very difficult position. I ended up threatening to call 911 and telling them my car was stolen, to which her response was to hang up the phone.
I felt hurt and betrayed more than angry. I had done many different favors for this particular sister in law over the years, and we had some sort of relationship although it was very one sided and horribly judgemntal on her part. l felt as though she had punched me in the stomach. There I was left with no money, and no van while my husband was gallavanting in Israel spending money on trips and buying food for my sister in law to cover her expenses, and all I wanted was my own vehicleand that was taken away too.
My sister in law (Rebbetzen of Rosh Yeshivah) was the one assigned to take my husband and boys to the airport, and she drove our van. She took it back to her own house (for safekeeping??) so I called her and asked when it would be convenient for me to pick up my van, bc I needed it to take my girls on a chol Hamoed trip.
I was stunned when she told me that she could not allow me to use my van, because my husband had entrusted her with it and had left specific instructions not to give me the keys.I tried to reason with her saying that the van belonged to me too, and i just needed it for 2 days and then she could have it back. I even offered to loan her my small car in exchange for the van (just in case she needed an extra car for herself). I even suggested that she give me the van for two days without my husbands knowledge and I would return it to her before he came back from Israel. This way he wouldnt know, and she would not be blamed. She got really angry and told me that I was putting her in a very difficult position. I ended up threatening to call 911 and telling them my car was stolen, to which her response was to hang up the phone.
I felt hurt and betrayed more than angry. I had done many different favors for this particular sister in law over the years, and we had some sort of relationship although it was very one sided and horribly judgemntal on her part. l felt as though she had punched me in the stomach. There I was left with no money, and no van while my husband was gallavanting in Israel spending money on trips and buying food for my sister in law to cover her expenses, and all I wanted was my own vehicleand that was taken away too.
In the end I decided that I would not continue this immature and useless battle and I would take the credit card and rent a van for two days. We had a wonderful time, the girls had a great time as we stayed overnight in a hotel. All the expenses went on the credit card, and in the end just a few weeks ago my husband payed the $8,000 that was on the card, ($8,000 was the amount that accumulated approx a years worth of spending)
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