My sister in law (Rebbetzen of Rosh Yeshivah) was the one assigned to take my husband and boys to the airport, and she drove our van. She took it back to her own house (for safekeeping??) so I called her and asked when it would be convenient for me to pick up my van, bc I needed it to take my girls on a chol Hamoed trip.
I was stunned when she told me that she could not allow me to use my van, because my husband had entrusted her with it and had left specific instructions not to give me the keys.I tried to reason with her saying that the van belonged to me too, and i just needed it for 2 days and then she could have it back. I even offered to loan her my small car in exchange for the van (just in case she needed an extra car for herself). I even suggested that she give me the van for two days without my husbands knowledge and I would return it to her before he came back from Israel. This way he wouldnt know, and she would not be blamed. She got really angry and told me that I was putting her in a very difficult position. I ended up threatening to call 911 and telling them my car was stolen, to which her response was to hang up the phone.
I felt hurt and betrayed more than angry. I had done many different favors for this particular sister in law over the years, and we had some sort of relationship although it was very one sided and horribly judgemntal on her part. l felt as though she had punched me in the stomach. There I was left with no money, and no van while my husband was gallavanting in Israel spending money on trips and buying food for my sister in law to cover her expenses, and all I wanted was my own vehicleand that was taken away too.